One of the great things – or one of the many great things – about masturbation is the fact that it doesn’t require training. People instinctively teach themselves how to masturbate. Sure, guys may discover different ways to masturbate, but the basic means of masturbation are pretty much self-taught. And while there can be some penis health issues – most guys have rubbed themselves raw from too-intense masturbation at some time or other – it’s generally a safe way to pass the time sexually. So it may be surprising to learn that some men consult a coach to help them more fully experience their masturbation.
Why the need?
Many men would ask, why consult a masturbation coach? What’s the point? And indeed, a man can continue to masturbate his entire life without a coach and have a perfectly fine solo-sexual life.
But some men may find that they want more from their masturbation experience or may feel that they’ve become bored with the way in which they masturbate. The latter certainly makes sense. Most men start masturbating in adolescence and continue doing so throughout their lives. Some masturbate only occasionally, others several times a day. And for many, they masturbate the same way at 35 years of age (or 55 or 75) as they did at 15, although the frequency may have changed somewhat.
But people change over 20, 40, 60 years. Most men don’t have the same favorite food or drink that they did when they were 15, or read the same books, or have the same haircut. But many still masturbate the same way as they did decades ago.
And often that means that their masturbation experience is a fast one. As teenagers, most guys (1) are so easily and strongly aroused that they can’t wait to ejaculate and (2) have to hurry up anyway, as they don’t want to get caught masturbating. And that continues into adulthood; one study indicates that three-quarters of men ejaculate within 2 minutes of starting to masturbate.
As adults, men are more likely to have more time to enjoy masturbation. Yet some have a difficult time breaking old habits. Seeing a masturbation coach can be beneficial to making their masturbation experience more fulfilling and enjoyable.
Formally known as sexological bodyworkers, masturbation coaches are recognized as legitimate businesses only in the state of California, but they can be found in many states. (Since they are not regulated, one should be careful in selecting one and do some background investigations.) In general, in order to help a man get more out of their masturbation, a coach will work with them on being more “mindful” and in the moment while masturbating. (However, it should be noted that a good masturbation coach will ask a client what it is that HE is seeking and let his goals and needs determine the approach that is needed. Mindful masturbation is useful for attaining many different goals, but not all.)
A coach may utilize breathing exercises, visualizations, massage (including genital massage), and many other techniques. In general, the idea is to stop looking at masturbation as a fun activity that has to be rushed through and that is all about the penis, and to look at it as an experience that one should luxuriate in, give time to, and employ all of the erotic zones of the body rather than just simply the penis. The coach will watch the man as he masturbates and offer suggestions and guidance on how to make the experience more fulfilling.
Some men find benefits from one session, others may want to take a series of sessions. It all depends on a man’s individual needs.
Not every man wants or needs a masturbation coach, but they all need a healthy penis – so regular use of a first-rate penis health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil , which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) is crucial. Be prepared for masturbation by using an oil that contains moisturizing ingredients like shea butter and vitamin E in case the skin gets rubbed a little raw. The oil should also include L-carnitine, which helps maintain sensation in a rubbed-raw penis.